Depression, SPEAK UP! REALLY? ARE YOU LIKE SURE?
Speak to other, say what you feel, be motivated, be social etc. etc SPEAK UP! REALLY? ARE YOU LIKE SURE?.
What If I am in depression and what I say, you can’t understand. As the perspective of my feelings are far way for both of us then what?
How can you help if you ask me to speak up, share etc. Etc. by motivating, making good food for me, friends gathering for me, is it? Oh wait you will tell either you or your this and that had same issues and how he overcame and I should do the same.
The answer is you can’t, not always. If there is depression a professional help should be taken. SO PLEASE LET ME SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP.
CASE 1: I am Vijay feeling depressed, don’t know what to do. Don’t feel like socializing. Yesterday evening our team had a party and our client was also coming for the party. What could have been the best opportunity to be in the game, but I made an emergency excuse and decided not to attend the event. but this is not the first time, on casual team outing also I didn’t attend and Just makes excuses for every gathering, and with a standard answer “yaar bore hota hai mujhe, mere type ka nahi hai, I am very tired blah blah” I can’t face people, and with those I want spend time alone, I can’t ask them to do so, don’t know how to ask them leave gathering to be just with me.
I asked Rahul, let’s spend some time at my place or lets go someplace and just chill there, he is like tu kuch bolta bhi nahi and hum akele kya karenge look here there is so much going on you will have fun. So he has different agenda and by this he simply can’t understand my situation or urge to be alone.
Called my father and mother with usual inquiry of self and there, call ended with laughter, care and some family news (gossip) and then I am like what do I tell them, what is wrong as seems everything is fine, my silence was observed as disturbance in the network and I am equally acted that way as well.
I go the Job daily and on time, I don’t cry, I don’t waste money, I complete my task on time then what is that holding me from having a normal calm feeling.
And how come just one of such release of emotion of mine will make you aware that I am depress? here how will I express, and if I could express then I wouldn’t be at such a stage of depression.
Financially, health wise and on other front I am good but on mental front I just want to quit.
SO I MUST SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP
Scenario 2: I am Alok earning well, I have car, big house and family. Still I am depressed, how? I over involved myself into everything, one day there was a party of my friends friend (imagine) and I hardly knew him, but you won’t believe I did everything from start to finish like a pro event manager, this friend of mine was like dude you are so good with this and a call away friend, and we became good friends day on.
Its midnight or early dawn of the day, any of friends call me for airport pickup, emergency help, dropping cousin, running away from home and I am just a call away for my friends. I just earn and spend on my friend they obliviously love me for that. In totality I am the most interesting person and I just can’t be sad, If I am sad, people will say sun has risen from west this time and I must answer with a smile and same energy.
But my story is I just can’t be alone, am I depressed?
Yes I am. I have materialistic luxury with all the worlds people as my friend around me but I just can’t be alone. Being alone makes me insecure, vulnerable, less confident of self and complete useless. Though I have everything and does everything but just over. And on particular day if don’t get anyone to hang out with or reach out I feel anxiety, panic, feeling of negativity of my life.
Don’t know how to express my fear of loneliness as I myself haven’t understood it. And If I express people call me “faltu tension leta hai, sab kuch toh hai tere pass” and top of that everyone believe isko kuch nahi ho sakta he is like super strong.
Well then how can you help? As per you I am just overreacting or a just a sad moment for me and I as in ALOK always so shiny and smiley. I must ask then are you a professional in this case? To know that having everything mean nothing for me?
SO I MUST SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP
Problem: It’s easy to advice but not easy to ask for help.
if you need to help me, then you must be expert in the same and finally just because you have gone through same doesn’t mean you can offer others advice on how this is so simple and it will pass it’s just phase and blah blah.
So JUST LET ME HELP IN GETTING PROFESSIONAL HELP
Depression is a common and serious medical illness medical illness medical illness medical illness and for medical help we must SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP
Depression can affect anyone—even a person who appears to live in relatively ideal circumstances.
Several factors can play a role in depression:
- Biochemistry: Differences in certain chemicals in the brain may contribute to symptoms of depression.
- Genetics: Depression can run in families. For example, if one identical twin has depression, the other has a 70 percent chance of having the illness sometime in life.
- Personality: People with low self-esteem, who are easily overwhelmed by stress, or who are generally pessimistic appear to be more likely to experience depression.
- Environmental factors: Continuous exposure to violence, neglect, abuse or poverty may make some people more vulnerable to depression.